Important Stuff -- Or Not: But I am not bitter...Really!

Thursday, January 24, 2008

But I am not bitter...Really!

Tell me what you think of this. This story forces me to at least ask myself at least once..."What is wrong with me?" My good friend from high school who I then met again in law school refers her friend "Kara" to me when she, also a lawyer like myself, gets fired from her law firm THE SAME DAY she comes back from maternity leave. I feel bad for her. I also lost my firm job 3 weeks after I came back from maternity leave but I didn't sue. No attorney would take Kara's case because most good attorneys would fear going after another firm. I am bitter against firms and couldn't care less...SO I take the case for her...and get her $200k. Then she is having trouble finding a new firm like I did. She hated every place she went to since her last job just like I did. She decides to apply to the DA office which was my dream job. I applied once was hired but then they cut the training class because of the budget. I applied again last year and didn't get in. She tells me she applied. Again she is really nice and I like her. So I said hey it didn't work for me but a close relative is pretty high up there and could help you. So I call my relative and ask him if he knows who will be interviewing her. HE DOES!! of course when it was me interviewing he didn't know them...of course. Then I give her the answers to all the questions for the interview. They are generally the same. I remember them. I have my relative to tell them how great she is... NEED I SAY MORE... SHE GOT THE JOB. We have lived parallel lives in most ways the last two years. She is slso a mom to a baby boy too...and yet she ended up with 200k and her dream job. I left my firm with nothing and never got the DA job. I am so happy for her really. She is a great woman. But philosophically speaking what's wrong with me? What lesson am I suppose to be learning here? Does anyone relate? Can't wrap my head around this one. If nothing else this woman OWES ME A KIDNEY!!! Life can be cruel.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...: Oh, so sorry, Tonto! I just hate when stuff like that happens!

My hubby, who has been over the legal-type stuff for his company for the last few years, is surprised that Kara got the job at the DA's office--at least if it was known that she sued her last employer. I would have thought it illegal to hold maternity leave against an employee like that. Regardless, they deserved to be sued, as did yours.; 9:02 PM
Lone Ranger said...: Last time I checked, giving someone the answers to a test was called cheating. You just might have been hit over the head with a stick called Karma.; 9:11 PM
Tonto said...: Nope not really a test. Everyone gets the same questions and a chance to answer but even if your answer may have been more wrong than right it has more to do if they just like you.

I just gave her the questions not answers since there really are no right or wrong answers. You just asnwers the way you want. You just have to have something intelligent to respond with...which I think is the real point of them.

Kind of thought I was being punished for something...although I don't think it was that...so maybe you are right.; 10:03 PM
Tonto said...: Actually I was able to settle the case without a complaint ever being filed. Sop she wold never had to say that she has actually sued her employer if it came up which it rarely if ever does.

What I have come to understand watching my former firm dodge and avoid several other harassment claims is that a Law firm has much more fear of a claim being filed naming them for public record where their clients might find out than the fear an attorney should have in filing suit.

I knew the firm would be scared and I basically called their bluff and held out longer than they did so they finally paid when they knew we had no fear of filing the suit and as "airtight" case as anyone could get.; 10:38 PM
Trader Rick said...: Life is hard, then you die.; 6:08 AM
Lone Ranger said...: I was once beaten out for a job. It was as a GS-9 working the very same job I was in the Air Force. I would have retired on a Friday and walked in the next Monday as a civilian. However, they gave the job to some guy on the loading dock who had zero experience. Then, I got this job and am making about three times as much money. When God closes a door...; 6:48 AM
Mark said...: Sounds like my brother and I. He can fall through the hole in an outhouse and come up smelling like a rose. I am the embodiment of Murphy's law.

He has never had anything go wrong for him in his entire 59 years. Little catastrophe's happen to me almost everyday.

He readily admits that if something serious did go wrong for him, he'd wouldn't know how to handle it. He would fall apart, psychologically.

On the other hand, I'm so used to adversity, I just pick myself up, dust myself off, and go on.

Some people say I have a negative attitude. I say sometimes, a negative attitude is necessary to be able to see the positive side.

My trials have made me strong. I will be there for him when the inevitable happens.

We both have our places in Gods plan.

Maybe you are being tempered, like iron, for sometime later when your strength will be needed.; 7:42 AM

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3. A stupid person is not someone who can't learn, but someone who refuses to learn.

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25. This economy will never heal as long as Obama keeps picking at the scab.

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27. You cannot change the hearts and minds of liberals, because they possess neither.

28. There is no such thing as a kind liberal.

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2. Never try to reason with a liberal. They disregard any evidence that conflicts with their beliefs.

3. You can always tell what liberals are up to by what they accuse conservatives of doing.

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12. A liberal's business is nobody's business, but everyone's business is a liberal's business.

13. Liberals have an inflated sense of self-worth. They are like house flies that criticize the air-worthiness of a Stealth fighter. (Sarah Palin, George W. Bush, ad infinitum are morons.)

14. Liberals lack a sixth sense that conservatives have in abundance -- common sense.

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22. Liberals not only refuse to learn from their mistakes, they refuse to admit them.

23. Liberals have only two political positions -- blind devotion and blind hatred.

24. Liberals are incapable of attacking the message, so they always attack the messenger.

25. Liberal diversity is only skin deep.